OK. I admit it. Thereâ€™s something to that â€œslippery slopeâ€ argument that Fundamentalists warn everybody about. I guess Iâ€™ve officially slipped. However, as a friend of mine pointed out, â€œOnce you see, you canâ€™t unsee.â€
I can never go back to the Pharisaical judgmental life I lived pre-slope slip, but I do want to get my Jesus groove back. Iâ€™ll be sharing the lessons I learn along the way and hopefully will get where I need to be.Â
Lesson One: Cultivate Friends Who Will Offer Honest Feedback
Iâ€™ve had many friends along the way that have been able and willing to look me in the face and say, â€œHowie, youâ€™re being a _____________. You need to ____________.â€
This has been most helpful in my spiritual growth. These jerks have sometimes ticked me off, but they have enlightened me about my weaknesses and character faults. Yeah, I miss them sometimes, and they usually say the same things as my other former friends have said, but at least I know areas in which I need improvement.
Not all of these relationships have been the same. Some have been more like mentors until I found faults with them that disqualified them from being role-models or mentors. Others were more like employers. However, their advice is usually so biased against me and they try to use their position to control me so I end up having to â€œmove on.â€ Some have been true friends whose smirks, eye-rolling, and confrontations became too much for my Christian patience to bear. Also some people can dish dish dish, but THEY canâ€™t take any constructive criticism!
Thus, my advice is to seek Godly persons whom you respect to help you become more Christ-like. Itâ€™s not really worked that well for me, but Iâ€™m sure it can help transform you into a humble, God-fearing Christian.